I Will Love To Spend The Rest Of My Life With You But...

It happened, finally, it happened; my boyfriend of 5 years just popped the question. I've never been this happy in my entire life, I wanted to scream out loud I’M GETTING MARRIED! I was so excited, I couldn't wait to tell the world.

First I had to start with my family. Days after, still basking in the euphoria of being someone's fiancee, I was brought back to earth by a call from my uncle.

He said, "Jcee I am very fond of you and I have to tell you what I feel about this impending marriage. You just rounded up your youth service, you don't have a job or a career path yet and I have known you to be industrious, career driven and a great achiever; what do u think will happen to your dreams after the wedding?'' He continues, you are going to start taking care of your husband and before you know it, you have a bunch of kids to take care of too, what happens to your dreams?  This is how it works, either u marry early, give birth to your kids and then pursue your career or you get married after you have gotten to a certain level in your career but not when you are just about to start a career.

l pondered on this conversation I had with my uncle. I love my boo and I will love to spend the rest of my life with him but what of my career, my dreams, my aspiration? Are they all going to be on halt? Will I be happy in a marriage without achieving my purpose in life?

I really do not want to take my marriage vows without having answers to these questions. 

One Monday morning while I was observing my devotion I stumbled on Philippians 4;13 which states "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me". It got me thinking do I really believe this? If I do, then why can't I have it all? Why can't I be a super wife, mother and still have an amazing career? Who says I can't have it all? I know God wants me to have it all so that's all that matters.

Anyway, I got married to my boo five years ago,  I still have a long way to go in my career path but I am not where I used to be. My uncle was right about one thing though, we started having kids almost immediately and believe me when I say this: they are the best blessings i have ever received.

Truth be told, it is not easy raising a family and also building a career not just having a job but using your God given talent and getting the best from it. All we can do is to keep pressing on.

This is to encourage all the career driven super wives and moms who are worn out, tired and stressed out. WE CAN HAVE IT ALL IF WE KEEP PRESSING FORWARD WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE #superwives #supermoms #bosseswithattitude.

So what do you guys think... 
When is the best time to get married?
1. Before building a career
2. Whilst building a career
3. After becoming self sufficient in your career.
4. When your heart tells you to.