Jcee, life has not been fair to me at all, I have
prayed and fasted but it seems God is not hearing me” those were the words that first
tumbled out of Bisi’s lips after a protracted bout of tears.
Bisi and I have been friends since childhood and we had
decided about a year ago to have a girl’s day out. It had been a while since we
had one of those and I was really excited but one look at her face though and I
knew that plan of ours wasn't going to be as pleasurable as I had hoped.
She narrated how her hubby wasn't doing so good at work and
how she is trying to see what she can do to support her family, well this lady
I am talking about is a master degree holder from one of the best university in
the UK, she was even offered a job with the university because she had a
distinction which she had to turn down because she had just gotten engaged and
was planning her wedding.
Now she has three kids and she was still looking for a job.
She continued; right now Jcee, I am frustrated I wonder if my
life would remain like this.
I have tried doing some other types of business
but failed. I am not cut out for them.
All I want is a career as a business analyst and
I don't see it happening anytime soon.
I'm so confused; I don't know what to do.
See I love my hubby and my kids they mean the
world to me but maybe I shouldn’t have turned down that job I got in the UK.
Maybe I should have looked for how to handle the
family life and the job, I am just not happy, I deserve better than this. She finished.
I told her, Bisi first of all, you cannot start the next
chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one, always look at what
you have and never look at what you have lost because it is already in the
past. Remember Paul in his letter to the Philippians (3:13) said ‘One thing I do,
forgetting those things which are behind
and reaching forward to those things which are ahead of me.’
Secondly, I don't know how to help you in your career but
one thing I do know is that you want to be a Business Analyst, and that is what
you should focus on. Keep Pressing Forward;
keep looking for ways, even when there seems to be no way. Take the little
steps of today they make the Giant Steps of tomorrow. The extra energy required
to make another effort or try another approach is the secret of winning. Don’t ever give up because if you do, then you are practically saying it is
over.
Lastly, you don’t get what you deserve; you get what you negotiate.
So if you think you deserve to be a business analyst then negotiate for it with
all of you. Fight for your dream and do not get comfortable in mediocrity. Be
the boss of your life.
Few months after we had this chat, she started consulting
for a private firm although it is not where she wanted to be, it was not
where she used to be.
She started by being proactive and submitting different
business proposals to different offices, instead of just applying for a job
when there is an opening.
In the future, she intends to have a consulting firm.
This is to encourage all the superwives, supermoms
and career driven ladies that have
slowed down their careers or have put it on hold for whatever reason, we can
still have it all if we keep pressing forward with a positive attitude
#wegomakeam #thepowerofpositiveattitude #bosseswithattitude.
